Embrace Uncertainty and Let go of Control
Tere Zacher
20
September
2016

I used to think I was always in control. I had a plan, I would follow the plan. I made goals, I believed in my goals and I was sure they will happen... when I wanted them to happen.

Then life came by and reminded me: Yes, you need to have goals. Yes, if you believe in them and you make anything under your power to make them happen, they will... but, you are not in charge of WHEN. As I learned this lesson something happened: I started living more at ease and I started to relax more knowing that thing will happen when it's the right time for them (and for me) and that, if they don't happen exactly the way I want them to, it's because life has a better idea and a better plan for me.

So, reality check: we can’t control everything and we can't determine when something will happen 9or if it will happen the way we want it to). Too much stress and energy are placed on our futures, on the ideas and events that we cannot even begin to anticipate or change. Yet, we continue to try to micromanage our experience, without actually living in the moment. In essence, we are slaves to our own devices.

Can we break this vicious cycle? Yes, of course. And in order to do so we have to begin with ourselves. Start as a “clean slate” and work on how you can shift your perspective and embrace uncertainty with these seven reasons. You’ll start to feel a release of pressure and stress in no time:


1. It’s Out of Your Control:

Easier said than done, right? Just remember, that if you have an idea about how your future will play out, think again. Life never goes according to plan. There are too many factors and elements that can positive or negatively affect our anticipated future. So, why dwell on what we can’t control? Honestly, we can do everything in our power to finish a race in a certain time or in a certain place and someone else may be a little faster that day or the weather was not right for your pace goal. We may expect to land a promotion and someone else may just be a better fit. You cannot force that change to happen in your favor so Why worry about it?


2. Shift your focus:


Shift your focus from what you can’t control to what you can. Let it go and do whatever you can in the present. If you want a promotion, work hard, learn new skills, take a class, seek advice and do your personal best. If you want to race a certain pace, then start training and doing more repetitions and sets at that pace, get out of your comfort zone.  Then, the future is out of your hands. Make use of your time wisely, because stressing over what may happen will only give you a headache and a little paranoia.


3. Embrace discomfort:


Miracles happen out of your comfort zone. In athletics more often than not we confuse pain with discomfort. Pain will literally make you stop because it won't go away no matter if you ease the training or the pace. Discomfort may have you ease back but it won't kill you. Discomfort stops when you stop training or racing.

While embracing discomfort sounds like a lofty contradiction, there is some merit in this idea. Since the future is out of our control, so is everything along the way and you need to be prepared to get a little uncomfortable. Maroon 5 said it so well: “Life isn’t always rainbows and butterflies, it’s compromise that moves us along.” We can’t always have things turn out in our favor. So, how do we deal with this stress? Baby steps.

Life isn’t easy, so try to train yourself to learn to handle being uncomfortable. Think of what it’s like to exercise. It is hard, but in order to get better, you have to deal with a little pain or discomfort. Over time, things get more manageable. Adopt that idea into your life and your body and mind will start to endure as well.


4. Accept change and be flexible:


Change is the only certain thing that will happen. Paradoxical, I know, but if you want to be successful in your future you need to let go of the past and live in the present. Once you let go of control, you’ll be able to understand that change is a part of life and you need to be flexible to have some grasp of what happens in your future. Believe it or not, but these skills are essential for working alongside others and having the best possible outcome for your future.


5. Start living in the now:


Fixating on your future is time consuming and, honestly, a waste of time. Yet, we all fall into this trap. Instead of living in the moment, we are trying our hardest to anticipate the next moment. Let go of the reins and let life take its course. Think of how much you miss when you aren’t really looking.

For example, say you are vacationing in St. Thomas. You’ve got one day on land before your cruise sets sail again. But instead of smelling the ocean breeze and taking in the glorious sights, you’re running boarding times through your head and what you need in order to leave. You’ve now missed a day of relaxation and luxury


6. Face your fears:


Don’t let fear run your life. Be aware of when you begin to lose focus on living in the moment and when you get caught up in something you can’t control. Take a deep breath and think of what you can do to keep your life moving forward. Experience. You’ll be less stressed and able to tackle anything.


7. Create your own opportunities and, if they knock at your door, answer them:


By letting go, you’ll be able to seize the day. With your newfound skills of flexibility and acceptance, you’ll be able to consider more options and paths to take. Don’t let yourself become trapped into one option. Keep an open mind and live in the moment!


And remember, no matter your current career or personal status, these seven tips can apply to your life. Stop stressing and start doing!!!!



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